CAUTION: Slippery When Wet

Okay ladies, let’s talk about sexual lubricants.  Now, you may be thinking: “I don’t need a lubricant—those are only for old dried-up vaginas”.  Not true!  Sexual lubricants are for everybody!  In fact, a sexual lubricant can add an extra dose of pleasure to just about any sexual encounter.

Many of us have been led to believe that our own vaginas “should” naturally produce enough lubrication to stay slippery throughout a given sexual activity.  However, copious vaginal lubrication does not necessarily go hand-in-hand with sexual arousal.  Vaginal lubrication is highly influenced by hormonal fluctuations and can vary greatly depending on where a woman is at in her menstrual cycle.  Reduced estrogen levels also contribute to reduced lubrication in women who have recently delivered a baby, breast feeding women, as well as those in menopause.  Hormones are not the only culprits for reduced lubrication.  Excessive alcohol, marijuana, and even some over the counter cough and cold remedies can dry up mucous membranes- including those in the vagina.  Even when a woman is producing a lot of natural vaginal lubrication, the extra slipperiness that an artificial lubricant provides can add to the arousal and enjoyment of both partners.

Not All Lubes are Created Equally

Oils

Oils have been used as sexual lubricants for centuries and they can be great for sexual massage and manual stimulation.  However, women should avoid oil-based lubricants for any activities involving vaginal penetration.  These products (especially thick ones like petroleum jelly) can be very difficult to wash or flush out of your body.  They can coat your vagina for days, inviting the overgrowth of bacteria and contributing to yeast infections.  Oils are also incompatible with safer sex practices as they break down the latex in condoms, dams, and diaphragms, putting both partners at greater risk for contracting sexually transmitted infections (STI).

Water-Based Lubricants

Water-based lubricants are safe to use for all types of sexual activities and they easily wash out of your body.  You can now find them at your local pharmacy and they come in a variety of brands.  Astroglide, KY liquid, Oh My, and Wet products are amongst the most popular lubes.  Some of these come in scented, flavored, or “warming” varieties.  If you are prone to yeast infections, choose a lube that is glycerine-free, as the glycerine is a sugary substance that can contribute to yeast production.  Some people do not like water-based lubricants because they can dry up during prolonged sexual activity.  However, they can be reactivated with just a tiny drop of water or saliva.  So, if you think you might be pulling an “all-nighter”, you might want to keep a glass of water, a spray bottle, or water gun nearby!  Water-based lubricants are meant for moist membranes—they will dry up quickly when applied to your skin, so they do not make good massage products.

Silicone Lubricants

Silicone lubricants stay slippery much longer than water-based lubricants and they can be applied anywhere on the body.  They can be used for prolonged sexual pleasuring as well as for massage.   They are also safe for use with condoms and are preferred by those with sensitive skin as they generally do not cause allergic reactions or skin irritations.  They tend to be more expensive than the water-based options, but they generally go further as “a little dab will do ya”.  Two of my favorites are PJUR (pronounced “pure”) and Wet Platinum.

One Final Butt

One final word of caution: NEVER try any type of anal or butt penetration without the use of a lubricant.  The anus and rectum do not produce any natural lubrication, and the anal tissue is much thinner and delicate compared to the vaginal tissue.  Therefore anal penetration without an added lubricant can result in painful tears and can potentially increase your risk for infections.

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Kelli Young earned her degree in occupational therapy in 1992 from the University of Western Ontario. She is a registered occupational therapist with training, certification and expertise in the areas of Marriage and Family Therapy, and Sex Therapy. Since 1992 she has worked in the Eating Disorders Program at the Toronto General Hospital where she provides group, individual, family and couple therapy. She also has a private practice in Toronto. Kelli has a diploma in group psychotherapy, earned in 1998 from the Canadian Group Psychotherapy Association (CGPA) following a 2-year intensive training program. In 2005 she received a Master’s degree (M.Ed.) in Counseling Psychology from the University of Toronto. That same year, she earned a graduate certificate in Couple and Family Therapy Studies through the University of Guelph and the Ontario Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (OAMFT). Kelli has extensive training in sex therapy, including a practicum in the Sexual Medicine Counseling Unit at Sunnybrook and Women’s Health Sciences Centre. She has also completed the “Intensive Sex Therapy Training Institute” (2001); the “Advanced Training Program in Treating Female Sexual Dysfunction” (2002) and the “Sexual Attitudes Reassessment (SAR)” Institute (2006) through the University of Guelph. She has training and experience in a variety of couple and family therapy models, including Narrative Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, and Feminist Therapy, which are approaches that she draws from extensively in her work. She also utilizes principles and methods of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. In addition to her work at the Toronto General Hospital and her private practice, Kelli has facilitated support groups at Sheena’s Place, a support centre for people with eating disorders. Since joining Sheena’s Place in 2002, she has facilitated groups on topics such as Talking about Sex; Food, Body Image, and Sexuality; Connecting as Couples; and Adult Support. She is a member of the Canadian Group Psychotherapy Association (CGPA), the Canadian Association of Occupational Therapists (CAOT) and the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada (SIECCAN). She is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) and a Clinical Member of the Ontario Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (OAMFT). Additionally, she is a Clinical Member of the Board of Examiners in Sex Therapy and Counseling in Ontario (BESTCO). Kelli also sits on the Canadian Advisory Board (Medical Advisor) of the Spinal Cord Tumor Association. Kelli holds a teaching appointment (rank of Lecturer) at the University of Toronto, Department of Occupational Science and Occupational Therapy in the Faculty of Medicine. Kelli is the recipient of several teaching awards. Most recently she received the University of Toronto Faculty of Medicine, Department of Occupational Science and Occupational Therapy 2011 Community Partners Award for “Outstanding Significant Contributions during 2010-2011”. Kelli and her husband reside in Toronto with their two teenage daughters.

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