Let’s Talk About Sex (Drives)!

Remember being 17 and sharing everything with your girlfriends? First kisses, bad dates, fights with your boyfriend? Chances are, you talked about everything- even those
things that boyfriend wouldn’t be too pleased to hear you sharing. Then you finished
school, and you began dating people more seriously. For every guy you went out
with, there was a subsequent conversation with that same best friend, or maybe
a new one, about the date, his appearance and personality, what was wrong with
him, and how far this relationship was going to go. When you got married, she
helped you pick your dress, and probably your lingerie as well. And if you’re
like most women, that is when things started to change. Conversation about sex
and sexuality started to dwindle, and was replaced by the other things that
were prevalent in your life. You can attribute this change to a million
different things, from your focus on balancing your kids and career to the
increased conservatism that comes with age.

Obviously your responsibilities and interests change as you
go through life, and accordingly, so do the topics of conversation that
interest you. But removing sex from the medley of topics that you are
comfortable discussing can inadvertently lead to feelings of alienation if you
ever develop a problem in this facet of your life.

Recent medical studies indicate that up to 1/3 of young to
middle-aged women, and up to ½ of older women experience issues relating to
their libido. The numbers alone demonstrate how pervasive these issues are, but
still it’s something we rarely discuss. Most women don’t talk about low female libido
with their friends, and the few that do discuss it with their doctor only
breach the surface of the issue. That so many of us choose to deal with this alone
could be attributed to a socially-distorted sense of decency. We wouldn’t want
to make anyone uncomfortable by discussing something so personal and so ‘crass.’
But the fact that we don’t talk about it is perpetuating the feelings of worry,
guilt, shame, and isolation that a woman faces when she is dealing with a
low-libido. These feelings can be tied directly to her conception that there is
‘something wrong with her.’ Contrary to this belief, low-libido is a prevalent
issue for more than a significant number of women, and these negative feelings
are a product of the stigma that surrounds a woman’s ‘abnormal’ sex drive. Talking
about issues relating to our sex drives creates a network of support and is
instrumental in getting rid of this unhealthy and unfair repression.

Given the well-established link between sexual function and
overall health, it is important to address issues pertaining to low-libido. It
is difficult, though, to address an issue that is plagued by a social taboo.
The vicious cycle continues when we play by this taboo’s rules and never
address the issue at hand. At femMED, we strongly believe that a woman’s most
important asset is her health, and so it is something that she should nurture
as best she can. One of the first steps in taking care of issues related to
libido involves simply opening up about it. We want to open a dialogue about
libido, and stop the stigma that surrounds it in its tracks. That our libido
level fluctuates throughout our lives is a normal part of being a woman, and so
it is also something that we should be comfortable with. If you are
experiencing a change in your libido, talk about it. You might find the person
you’re opening up to is facing a similar issue. If they’re not, they will know
that there is someone there if and when it becomes a problem that they face.

One of the main benefits of discussing libido-related issues
with other women, other than emotional support, is that we can share our
strategies for dealing with it. Although there is no Viagra for women, there
are a number of things we can do to take our sex drives back into our own
hands. femMED Libido is one of our best selling products, and we have received
an enormous amount of positive feedback from happy women (and their husbands!)
who have used it to reclaim their sex drives. There are a number of other
home-remedies that Kelli Young discusses in this blog post. If you find
any of these suggestions helpful, or if you have one of your own to share with
us, please share it in the comments section- or send it in a private message
through Facebook or our website.

We all know that dealing with body issues we’ve never
experienced before is hard. What’s even harder is experiencing them alone, and
not knowing what to do. In the case of low-libido especially, ignoring and
burying this aspect of being a woman is not healthy. By talking about libido
and making it a viable topic of conversation with your friends or medical
professionals, you can play a part in beating the silence associated with a
very common, very normal problem.

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Changing up Valentine’s Day: Unique Date Ideas

Valentine’s Day falls on a Friday this year, which means you have the whole weekend to celebrate! While going out for dinner is fun, we have come up with a list of 30 unique date ideas so that the occasion stays fresh. Let us know if you try any of these out!

  1. Ice skating.
  2. Wine tasting – many vineyards are affiliated with hotels and bed & breakfasts; see if you can book the whole weekend in wine country!
  3. Bowling.
  4. Trivia Night at your local bar.
  5. Don’t want to spend $300 on hockey tickets?
    Check out what games your local university team is playing.
  6. Go bungee jumping or sky diving.
  7. Go skiing or snowboarding. If you don’t know
    how, take a lesson together!
  8. Couple’s spa.
  9. Cook a fun meal that you wouldn’t normally be bothered to make, e.g. tacos, paella, oysters etc…
  10. Go to the aquarium or zoo.
  11. Play laser tag.
  12. Find a comedy show.
  13. Take a cooking class.
  14. Play mini-golf.
  15. Find some live music in your area.
  16. Book a dinner cruise.
  17. Find an out-of-the-city B&B and spend the weekend relaxing.
  18. Go ice fishing.
  19. Go dog-sledding.
  20. Go beer tasting at your local brewery.
  21. Get dressed up and go to the opera or ballet.
  22. Go hot air-ballooning.
  23. Go snowshoeing or cross country skiing.
  24. Go to New York, or another nearby city you can get away to for two days.
  25. Treat yourself to a “staycation”! If you don’t have the time or money to get out of the city for a whole weekend, book a hotel in your own city for the night.
  26. Bring Paris to your living room and have a picnic at home. Pack red wine, a baguette, and brie!
  27. Catch up on Oscar movies with your favourite foods, a fire, and a blanket.
  28. Go camping (or rent a cabin if it’s too cold) in or near a national park.
  29. Go tobogganing.
  30. Find a local Karaoke bar.
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Excited but not “Excited”: Enhancing Sexual Desire in Time for Valentine’s Day

Welcome February. Characterized by its long, grey days and accompanying cold winds, February doesn’t really leave us with a whole lot to get excited about. It is arguably the most insufferable month to endure, until you remember that smack in the middle of it is Valentine’s Day: the auspicious occasion that allows you to guiltlessly leave the kids at home and your work at the office, and celebrate your relationship.  (I don’t care if it was popularized by Hallmark to sell greeting cards; if it gives me an excuse to eat unlimited chocolate then I’m into it)!

So you’ve booked a babysitter, made the reservations, and have finally dropped those holiday pounds in order to fit back into your sexiest dress (or you haven’t…but you look great all the same). You should be excited, but if you’re one of the 18 million women in North America who suffers from low female libido, you’re probably more anxious than anything else. Valentine’s Day is by nature a day to celebrate relationships, and by extension is just as inherently a day to celebrate sex. If you’re not interested in this integral part of the holiday, then quite frankly, Valentine’s Day sucks. There are dozens of reasons why women lose their sex drive, which include but are not limited to:

  • Perimenopause
  • Menopause
  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Loss of confidence
  • Lack of physical exercise
  • Insomnia/fatigue
  • Environmental toxins (smoking, pollution)
  • Depression (and antidepressants)
  • Prescription drugs
  • Relationship issues

Most women who are suffering from low libido are not apathetic. They want to want sex, but they just don’t. Whether this lack of interest in sex is due to psychological, environmental, or physiological factors does not change its repercussions. Low libido can affect a women’s body image, mood, and self-confidence, and can leave us with feelings of disappointment, frustration, and inadequacy. Needless to say, no woman should ever have to struggle with these feelings, and it was with this in mind that femMED created femMED Libido.

There are over 25 FDA-approved treatments for men suffering from issues related to their sex drive, but there is currently very little on the market for women. Obviously medications like Viagra have been extremely successful in revitalizing many men’s sex lives, but most women aren’t looking for an equivalent. While a magic “Viagra for women” pill that you can ingest an hour before sex is an attractive quick-fix, what is more appealing is targeting the core issues affiliated with low libido and implementing a natural solution to improve sex drive.

Women experiencing low-libido are often less easily aroused, less sensitive to touching and stroking, prone to vaginal dryness and psychological discomfort, lack pelvic blood flow, and have difficulty achieving orgasm. The ingredients in femMED Libido work together as sex-drive enhancers and are successful in maintaining and increasing sexual desire, enhancing sexual satisfaction, and enhancing sexual response, thus combatting and often fully alleviating these symptoms. When these symptoms are targeted and relieved by the herbs for female sex drive in femMED Libido, women can start desiring and enjoying their sex lives, which will contribute to their ultimate personal, social, and physical fulfillment.

For many couples, Valentine’s Day is just a “Hallmark holiday,” but for others its importance is rooted in the fact that it is representative of their relationship as a whole. For these latter couples who normally play the grand gesture game, staying home and watching Breaking Bad is indicative of a larger problem. If that problem is female sex drive, then femMED Libido is an effective solution that you can find in the Natural Health or Vitamin section of just about any pharmacy in Canada. Unlike Viagra, it takes between 2-3 weeks of consistent daily use to achieve its best results, and so now is the time to start “warming up your engine” in time for Valentine’s Day (and every day after that). If you’re in the “I-think-Valentine’s-Day-is-a-whole-load-of-commercial-crap-camp,” but also experiencing a low sex-drive, then try femMED Libido so that you can go back to getting the most out of your sex life on any given day. If nothing else, (the desire for and practice of) sex will give you something to do during this long winter month!

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Choosing a Prenatal Vitamin – What Every Expectant Woman Needs to Know

Good nutrition is key for good health. This is particularly important during pregnancy to ensure both the mother and the growing baby receive all the essential nutrients for proper growth and development. However, even those who eat healthy may not be getting enough nutrients because many factors can deplete nutrients from the body. According to reports 20 to 30 percent of pregnant women have a vitamin and mineral deficiency, and without supplementation, roughly 75 percent of pregnant women would be deficient in at least one vitamin. This is why prenatal vitamins are essential for women before, during and after pregnancy—to fill in dietary gaps and prevent deficiencies.

Prenatal supplements differ from regular multivitamins in that they are specially formulated with increased levels of certain nutrients that are required to support a healthy pregnancy and reduce the risk of deficiency syndromes in both mother and baby. These nutrients include folic acid, calcium, vitamin D, iron and zinc.

Folic acid is particularly crucial for women to take in the early stages of pregnancy because studies have shown that it can reduce the risk of neural tube defects, including spina bifida by 70 percent.  Since neural tube defects occur within the first 28 days of conception, doctors recommend that women planning to get pregnant take a daily prenatal supplement that contains folic acid.

There are other health benefits associated with taking prenatal vitamins with folic acid. Researchers at The Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto have found that prenatal multivitamins fortified with folic acid can reduce the risk of three common childhood cancers: leukemia, brain tumours and neuroblastoma and they can also reduce the risk of a wide range of serious birth defects, including cardiovascular and limb defects, cleft palate, oral cleft, and urinary tract anomalies.

Women who suffer with morning sickness should look for a prenatal that contains ginger. Clinical research has found that ginger is safe and effective for reducing nausea during pregnancy. Unlike the prescription anti-nausea medication (Diclectin), ginger does not cause drowsiness or dry mouth.

Prenatal supplements vary greatly in quality and composition. Read the labels carefully and look for these key attributes when choosing a product:

  • A minimum of 0.4 to 1 mg of folic acid, 30 mg iron, 200-250 mg calcium, 800 IU vitamin D and 100 mg vitamin C along with
  • Easy to swallow vegetable capsules
  • Free of chemical additives such artificial colours (dyes), titanium dioxide and potential allergens such as dairy, egg, yeast, and gluten

Prenatal vitamins should be taken throughout pregnancy and during breastfeeding. Take with a main meal and a full glass of water.

As a pharmacist, health writer, and new mom, my top recommendation is femMED’s Pregnancy + Ginger formula. It contains all the essential nutrients along with ginger to combat morning sickness. Unlike most other prenatals, femMED’s Pregnancy and Pregnancy + Ginger formulas are free of chemical fillers, dyes and allergens.

 

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Sitting on the Sidelines

Due to a recent kickboxing injury, I have now been on crutches for 2 weeks and still have 2 more weeks to go. This is a serious problem for someone like me who has never used crutches and is always active.

I love nothing more than a lazy weekend on the couch watching bad TV, but a full month of it is truly agonizing! Apart from a speedy recovery, my biggest concern is how do I keep on track with my goals for staying healthy?

After 2 weeks on crutches I have learned some helpful tips on how to stay healthy while recovering from an injury.

The first is obvious; speak with your doctor about what is realistic. Your number one priority should be following their advice on how to help your injury heal properly. I am lucky that my knee injury is relatively minor (when compared to something like a broken leg). If your injury requires a longer recovery time, please be smart about getting better. Don’t over exert yourself; give your body time to heal.

Second, eating right and sticking to a healthy diet is even more important than ever. Stock up on all your favourite healthy foods. I bought double the amount of everything that I usually get at the grocery store. I then spent the entire weekend preparing all my lunches and dinners for the week. I prepared lots of different fruits, vegetables, proteins and grains and  stored them in containers in the fridge. That way, as soon as I made it through the door after work, I was able to make dinner quickly and with plenty of options. This way I am never bored with what I am eating, and it helps me stay on track.

Third, if you’ve got them, use your crutches. The daily walk to my bus stop and office is a total of 30 minutes on crutches. After only a week, I’ve noticed that my shoulders, upper back and arms have been getting a great workout. I have been using my pectoral muscle, biceps, deltoids and trapezius much more than I usually do. I did the math and I am burning approximately 300+ calories an hour. Using my crutches regularly has also helped to build my stamina and exert some of that pent-up energy.

Lastly, keep your mind and your hands busy. Trust me; it will help make the time go by much faster. I asked friends to recommend books, puzzles, word games, anything that would keep me busy but resting at the same time. I’ve even taken up knitting. Try to take advantage of being parked on the couch and turn an unfortunate situation to your advantage.

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